What should you do when you are afraid to approach someone to break the ice?
In my college..there are many familiar faces and I guess it will be good for me to make friends with them.
But how to approach them..same is the case with my yahoo contacts.
I have many people in my yahoo profiles added as my contacts but I don’t know how to approach them and start conversation.
Sometimes you are the one who has to atracct people by talking with everybody even if that means talking for a minute. I mean you have to show everybody that you are friendly. Create a good environment when someone is near you by smiling them and being nice with them in anything. Dont ever be sad near them or show your feelings about something bad if they still dont know you well because many people dont like to be around someone whose life is sad or bored. You will realize that they will eventually talk to you more often; you just gotta be pacient.
If you are shy and you wait for them to talk to you they wont. A good strategy in collegue school or work to make them talk to you is simply start sharing something with them like your meal at lunch time and then quickly start a conversation about what you think would be best and interesting to talk about there ( you know depending on what is happening there). If he/she doesnt answer or they just say "no" and ignore you, it means that they are unfriendly because even a dog says hi. Look for the friendly ones first, its almost imposible that they ignore you.
Now making friends "online" is even easier, you just gotta introduce yourself, just like meeting someone in the world outside. Then start a conversation about something interesting that happened, is happening or will happen to you, so he/she will have to say something about it. Next ask him/her about something related to what you talked about and let him/her talk (like a chain of opinions and conversations that will lead to new things to talk about). Make sure that you are hearing, listening to him/her and paying attention to every single word they speak, so you will have the opportunity to make opinions about her/him talk.
In the real world just make sure he/she is not talking to the walls, but is talking to you and you are talking to him/her not to the air!! . Another good advice is to make eye contact and smile 50% of the times (act naturally and friendly).
Doing all that, everybody will talk to you again with trust and then you will become friends!!
good luck and go for them^^
December 8th, 2009 at 6:47 pm
Break the ice on your head.
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December 8th, 2009 at 7:03 pm
just say hey or hi or watever and say how are you? stuff like that, talk to them like u know them. come out strait and say it!!!!!!!!!
hope i helped
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December 8th, 2009 at 7:38 pm
in real life, you could just spill some water and say…"omg am so sorry. oh hey, i think you are familiar bla bla" (but please dont do that lol)
in virtual life, it is more likely you have to put aside your shyness and approach them. greet them and ask how their life going on. i can not really tell you how since making friends is like go with the flow. Just say hi and talk normally..see hows everything can go
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December 8th, 2009 at 7:59 pm
Best answer for face to face contact is catch someones eye, try and hold their gaze and smile! Simple, but it works!!
As for speaking to people over the internet I don’t have much experience in that!! Just say what you feel if they want to chat back they will, if not…their loss!! xx
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December 8th, 2009 at 8:24 pm
You apparently already have some contacts for possible friends. You just need a little help. I’m going to place a link below. Go there and read over it and see if it’s helpful to you. It’s about making friends and socializing. Make sure you read #2.
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http://www.succeedsocially.com/sociallife
December 8th, 2009 at 8:31 pm
Smile, say hi, and ask what they are up to.
Easy… then take it from there. If there is an opening ask to go out and do something fun. Just relax and approach them with the possibility of having fun..
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December 8th, 2009 at 8:46 pm
Sometimes you are the one who has to atracct people by talking with everybody even if that means talking for a minute. I mean you have to show everybody that you are friendly. Create a good environment when someone is near you by smiling them and being nice with them in anything. Dont ever be sad near them or show your feelings about something bad if they still dont know you well because many people dont like to be around someone whose life is sad or bored. You will realize that they will eventually talk to you more often; you just gotta be pacient.
If you are shy and you wait for them to talk to you they wont. A good strategy in collegue school or work to make them talk to you is simply start sharing something with them like your meal at lunch time and then quickly start a conversation about what you think would be best and interesting to talk about there ( you know depending on what is happening there). If he/she doesnt answer or they just say "no" and ignore you, it means that they are unfriendly because even a dog says hi. Look for the friendly ones first, its almost imposible that they ignore you.
Now making friends "online" is even easier, you just gotta introduce yourself, just like meeting someone in the world outside. Then start a conversation about something interesting that happened, is happening or will happen to you, so he/she will have to say something about it. Next ask him/her about something related to what you talked about and let him/her talk (like a chain of opinions and conversations that will lead to new things to talk about). Make sure that you are hearing, listening to him/her and paying attention to every single word they speak, so you will have the opportunity to make opinions about her/him talk.
In the real world just make sure he/she is not talking to the walls, but is talking to you and you are talking to him/her not to the air!! . Another good advice is to make eye contact and smile 50% of the times (act naturally and friendly).
Doing all that, everybody will talk to you again with trust and then you will become friends!!
good luck and go for them^^
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December 8th, 2009 at 9:04 pm
In virtual world it is most easy to break the ice by just sending the e-mail.
In real life it is not too easy. I also had same problem but gradually it subsided though still many times I find it difficult. You can break the ice by giving smile or saying simple ‘Hi’ ‘Hello’. If you get good reaction, you may go ahead.
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December 8th, 2009 at 9:26 pm
i shall think positively to get
this problem solved
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December 8th, 2009 at 9:59 pm
Yaar you have to shed your shyness and increase confidence. It will be done slowly but you have to take step for it.
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